I have found out what MY most favorite calling EVER is in the church.....Primary Chorister!!!
I LOVE to sing with those kids! I love to sing the gospel truths and help them know the words so that when they need that in their lives they can sing them.
I LOVE being in Primary with my own children. I felt like all the time and effort I put in, wasn't just for nothing, but my kids saw all the time I spent on my lesson each week and then they got to enjoy it on Sunday.
I LOVED encouraging the kids in my primary to WANT to learn how to play the piano so they could accompany us. It was SO cool that Matthew accompanied the Primary kids IN SACRAMENT twice last year. Once for Father's Day, and then he accompanied a song and another 11 year old boy accompanied a song in our Primary Program!! It was SOOO cool.
I know that I have never accompanied anybody in Sacrament before.
Anyways, I love being in Primary. I was first put into Primary as the 2nd Counselor in the Presidency with Stacey Leber as President, and Karen Eliason as 1st Councelor. Then after about a year there we needed a new pianist and our chorister could play the piano so they moved Heidi Taylor to pianist and me to Chorister. When they issued that call, I may or may not have pumped my fist and said, YES! I got put in in August of 2016. I was gone for a few weeks and then we had our program in October of 2016. Heidi had already decided on all the songs and such so I just had to come in and review and do the program.
I was excited for the start of 2017 because then I could pick the extra songs and make it my own thing. I LOVED it!! I was in the LDS Primary Chorister Facebook group and that was SOO helpful with new fun ideas each week. My biggest struggle was getting my 20 minutes. I didn't usually get it because they wouldn't let singing time go first, always sharing time.
I had a great year, though I was a NERVOUS wreck for our program because I had never used kids so much for accompanying and we did bells and we had lots of solos and duets. I was so worried they would get stage fright or something but they didn't and they did awesome.
One compliment was, "I have never seen so many kids doing so many different parts of the program. She really liked it."
Anyways, the beginning of December, our friend...and a member of the Bishopric over Primary, Bary Dalton, stopped by our house unannounced on a Saturday. I was just driving home from running errands and I thought he was coming to visit Chris because they are friends. Anyways, he was there on "official business" and I didn't think I really liked him being on official business because that ALWAYS means a new calling.
He told me about how we are combining the other ward, Chickahominy and Mechanicsville ward youth nights and our Cub Scout program is coming together.
He was telling me/us how it was all going to work, telling us how we needed good leadership in Cub Scouts and stuff and finally I said, ok, get to the point.
He said that he wanted me to be the new Cub Scout Committee Chair. (Our Cub Scout program was HORRIBLE!!!!!) I hated going, I hated going to pretty much anything it was apart of. Matthew had great Wolf leaders (Lisa Luck and Candi Blaser) and a REALLY good Webelos Leader (Ronnie Sipe). I was glad when Matthew was finally out of Bears so that he got such a good leader like Ronnie Sipe. Takes his calling very seriously and is SOO good. Anyways, that was about the extent of anything good in that pack. I was SOOOOOOOOOO happy when Matthew turned 11 this year and I was OUT!!! I didn't have to be apart of that crap of a program anymore. When I was in the Presidency of Cub Scouts I TRIED and TRIED and TRIED to get them to communicate to the parents more and tried this and that and the committee chair just did his own thing. The person that became the new 2nd counselor I thought would be able to get him to do well, and NOPE that didn't work either. Bottom line they needed someone else in that position especially having TWO wards now involved. Not that I am a wonderful person but when Bary said they wanted me to do it, I was all-for it knowing that it needed change in that program to make it good for the boys.
I was like yep, ok, yeah, I can do that......but then the BOMB dropped!!!!
Chris asked......."Is this in addition to Primary Chorister???"
Bary shook his head no.....
I actually kind of screamed out NO! and burried my face in the back of the couch close to Chris and just started bawling!!!!
But this isn't a Sunday calling!! I can do both!!
Bary shook his head no.....
"We need all of your efforts to be in this program". He tried to talk to me about other things as I just cried, and cried, and cried. I just shut down any niceness towards him. I was SO MAD/SAD!!
He eventually left and asked if I wanted a hug, but I was mad at him and just let Chris walk him out. I pretty much cried for two days straight.
I didn't tell me kids since I am not really suppose to tell anybody until I am sustained, so I had the Bary, Stacey (the Primary President) and Chris to talk to.
I wanted to stay until the end of the year, and we weren't going to actually do the releasing until then just to finish this year out and start fresh in the new year.
We had stake conference that weekend anyways but I actually didn't go, because all I would have done was cried.
I cried a lot!!! When I went to do piano lessons with my kids I would cry. I worry that they won't get that opportunity to play the piano anymore in there since I won't be in there and then they won't want to learn more songs.
Everything set me off. I got depressed and just shut down....and cried some more.
The first two days actually Chris just took the kids and let me do WHATEVER I wanted. I actually went out into the garage and did wood-working. Many times I had to shut off the saw because I was crying so bad. I thought of how horrible of a job I must have done for them to fire me. I thought about saying no to the Stake President when he wanted both wards to do the prelude music and we were already preparing for something else and thought they kids needed a break after just getting done with the program. I thought that Stacey must just not want to work with me anymore. I thought so many horrible dark, feelings of why I wasnt wanted anymore. I cried a lot all the time and Chris couldn't believe I was taking it so hard but I had only been in there a year, ok like 16 months. I wasn't done yet, I didn't want to leave me kids. I enjoyed being crafty and using it and playing games and songs and laughing with the kids. I had so much fun in Primary and I don't want to be to boring Relief Society.
The Relief Society President called me the next week and was talking to me and asking how things were going and such. She asked about my calling, because everyone knows how much I loved that calling. I was a little solemn about it and she was surprised. "Oh I thought you really liked it." So I had to switch tactics and said, let me tell you all the many reasons why I LOVE being Chorister........
After that she said, "Oh I am so glad you have that in your life right now."......yeah....I don't :( ...... but I wasn't suppose to talk about it.
I finally texted Stacey and Bary to see if I might be able to get released but just "sub" until the end of the year, so that I would be able to start talking about it and dealing with it. It was hard not to talk to Bary's wife, my friend, Annette, and he doesn't ever tell her anything to do with callings so I know she didn't know, even though he knew why their friend was so depressed.
When I got called to be chorister, I had already planned on being gone for two weeks so they released the old chorister but just had her sub for two more weeks, so I figured why not do that here so that I can start talking to other people, telling my kids and such. Well, Saturday night they decided to cancel church the next day due to the snow anyways so we didn't have to worry about any releasings. However, they did say they would do it the next week so then I could start dealing with it by talking.
After two weeks of dealing with the idea of not being able to do this great calling anymore, I wasn't crying over it constantly. In fact, I thought I was doing pretty well.
Allison got asked to sing a duet with Kyla Raab at Holly Fox's baptism and so we went to that. I saw Bary before the baptism and I was smiling and I gave him a hug so that he saw I wasn't always crying when I saw him. He asked how I was doing and I was chipper and said, I am dealing with it, just takes time.
I had Allison and Kyla sing a medley of Baptism and When I Am Baptized. I had Allison learn the Alto part and though she sort of fought me at first to learn it, we just drilled it into her head so much that she couldn't remember any other way to sing it. She actually did so well at her part that Kyla couldn't even sing the melody on part of it, she sang with harmony with Allison. It probably wasn't noticeable all that much to those listening but if you knew the music or know music in general they probably might have been able to tell.
She did a great job though and she had a great time knowing the harmony after that.
The closing song at the baptism was I Am A Child of God. That is next year's Primary Theme. That song is one of the songs they are singing. When we started singing that song, I lost it. I thought I was doing so well, but I opened the waterworks again.
We were thankfully in the back, but I had to leave and go to the bathroom to get tissue and stuff. It was just so hard. When I went back out, everyone had gone from the Relief Society/Baptism font room to the gym for desserts, but Bary was still in the Relief Society room. He gave me a hug and I cried some more. He knew that the song did it to me. We talked about Cub Scouts and what we needed to do. Then eventually I went into the gym, just kind of waiting for Allison to get done.
Stacey was talking to someone else and then I heard her say, well, I need to go talk to Stephanie, and she came over.
She gave me a hug and I was not all that friendly and said, I don't want to talk to you. It was the first time that I had actually seen her since finding out "she was firing me". She said, let's go out and so we went into a dark Relief Society room and cried together and had a great conversation.
She said that she had been struggling with the Spirit so much on this. She knows how great I am in Primary and didn't want to lose me there but I am needed with the Scouts right now. She was sad that I felt like I was getting fired or that I did something wrong. We cried a lot together, and had some laughs in there too.
She told me how much I meant to her and how much I had taught her. I didn't know I had taught her anything but she said she saw how passionate I was about those kids and my calling and singing and teaching those kids. She just was inspired by what I did in there. *I just shook my shoulders, ok* I didn't really think I did anything special, just had fun with them.
We finally stopped talking and when we went out in the hall, Allison had asked Mark Fulcher, do you know why my mom is crying? His response was, "She is a rock and water falls over rock." Yeah, he is weird/funny like that. She didn't quite get it.
On Sunday, December 17th, I was very solemn when I went to church. Not social because I was just trying not to cry....while before church started. When they hymns started playing I started crying and I didn't stop all Sacrament. They released me and I cried. When I was to stand up for my new calling I stood but I was on the side and I just stared at the floor and then sat down.
I was able to pull it together for the most part in singing time, except when they sang really well, then it was hard not to cry but it was ok.
We played Primary Christmas Singo so that was really fun! But Bary came in at the end and gave me a hug and I cried. It seems like when I see Bary now, I cry. How sad is that? I texted he and Annette and told them that Chris and I need to go out with them sometime and do something non-church related so Bary isn't always seeing me cry whenever I see him.
The next week was Christmas Eve and we just had a joint Sacrament meeting with Chickahominy ward.
Then last week was New Year's Eve and I got ALL of the time!!
It was fun! We played hand bells and sang Ring, ring, ring, I like to ring, I like to ring a bell, ring, ring, ring. while we rang in the new year.
We sang all the songs I wanted us to sing and they got to put their favorite song on snowball and try to make a basket, then we sang their favorite songs.
Our final song that we sung was We'll Bring the World His Truth, my favorite song, and of course....I cried.
I hope that they need me to sub when the chorister is gone but also to sub as a teacher in Primary. It is just so fun, and I love being in there with me kids to watch what they are doing and how they are acting:)
When we sang the last song in SR Primary, I looked over and just saw Allison crying which made me cry more...and then I saw Matthew crying!! Allison cried when she found out I wasn't going to be in there but Matthew hasn't ever cried so I didn't really think he cared all that much if I was in there or not, but seeing him cry, I guess made me feel good that he was in fact going to miss having his mom in there with him. We were the sobbing Thomases:)
I know that I will be back again in the best calling ever, but it is A LOT of work:)
One day I did Music Measles and the kids had SOO much fun, and apparently the teachers did too, many of them were taking out their phones to get pictures of me.